Lifestyle in University.
Sexual urge among youths.
Welcome to Nigerian campuses where little girls are practicing ‘wife characters’.
Just visit the boys’ hostel and you will be disappointed to find out that it is now common for a girl to live with a male course mate. It is now common for her lover to give her the popular compliment ‘you look sexy my gal’ and she would gladly reply ‘thank you honey’ with a flirty voice and a romantic smile.
Who is her lover?
A 300 level student whose CGPA is barely up to 1.82. And they are aiming for the next best couple award for the session by the departmental association.
So, the girl need to live in with him to prepare along. What nonsense! It seems that some girls suddenly loose their senses immediately they gain admission. I’ve seen that some of them have no more sense of caution, honor and dignity.
They would change their wardrobes and acquire a new set of sexy clothes and make ups just to look sexy enough for the guys. In months, they would start sleeping around with little boys. I mean boys who collect pocket money from their uncles. Dirty boys who most of the time are infected with sexually transmitted diseases.
Hey! I want you to know that you were sent to school to obtain a degree not a disease. The campus is called a school; school not sex. You are on campus to receive education not ejaculation. You are here to master the use of a pen not the pleasures of a penis. Wake up girl. Think. Your future is greater than the ‘best couple award’.
You cook for a boy who you are more intelligent than. Most girls give their virginity to a boy who have no value for you but lust after your body. You play wife to a boy who cannot even feed himself, someone that depends on his family for food. Some people do not understand the difference between “lust and love”
Oh, you have given too much. Enough! Open your eyes! Can’t you see a barrier you are creating for yourself? You are passing through the fears of unwanted pregnancies yet you are opening your legs to a boy who cannot stand before your father.
And when you eventually gets pregnant, he would brutally advise you to abort it and you would timidly agree. What a shame.
You may master the use of condoms but you can’t master the punishment of your conscience. Don’t you know you are bringing shame to your family? Don’t you know that you are cursing your mother by accepting to sleep with a boy (not even a man) without her consent?
I cautioned a girl against sleeping around and she replied I don’t sleep around; its only one boyfriend I have and am faithful to him’. What impunity! That’s classified harlotry. And don’t you know that sleeping with a man without your father’s blessings is bringing a curse to your future?
What happened to your cultural values? Somewhere in your heart you know he would use you and dump you; so why are you setting up yourself for a heartbreak? I want to remind you that you are a lady and one day you may get married. And your husband would know that one day.
The greatest gift a lady would give to her husband on the wedding night is her virginity less lost it out of (rape) not the certificate of best couple of the year on campus. The other gifts for the rest of her life are her care and character not her curves.
Those treacherous boys would call you ‘sexy’ and you would answer? Oh, sorry! They touch your breast and you would smile? They would
ask you out and you would oblige? Oh, you are indeed a mistake. Am not saying that you should be rude or never live a ‘social life’ but I want you to think deeper than you are currently doing. I want to turn your attention back to your books.
You are not in school for breast exhibition. So, pay less attention to those boobs and give more attention to your books. So, why make yourself so cheap? I am writing this with both love and pain in my heart and that’s why am sounding this way.
I know two girls that have been living with their boyfriend since year one and as it is now they can’t even even count how many abortions they had for that same boy. It’s now a normal thing to them, the last one she did almost took her life and that made her bleed for 4months, imagine how you do feel with ordinary 4 days of menstruation left alone living with it for months.
As a matter of fact one of them have damaged her fallopian tube due to excessive use of contraceptives she has taken to prevent pregnancy. I want you to look beyond now and think of what advise you would give your own daughter when you become a mother. I hope I have not offended you…if I have, it’s for your good.
To the decent girls I have seen on campus: do not be swayed by these evil. Be consistent and keep celebrating your purity. I’m always proud of you.
I am not judging anybody, I’m only telling the truth.
Gay and lesbian too is increasing too in the campus. And those who are victim of these things, attend churches and mosques. One thing we should always have in mind is that our personal relationship with God matter most. And He will reward every man according to his work.
The truth is, as a youth, you all have these sexual urge. It’s a strong thing. Stronger than anything I have encounter. You have read so many article and watched videos on how to control it but it gets difficult on a daily basis.
Same here. We all experience the same thing daily.
What should you do? How can you control this urge?
If you don’t have a boyfriend or a girlfriend, it seems like you don’t belong.
As a teenager, one of the best educations you can receive is sex education. The best person to receive sex education from is your parent.
Your libido/sexual urge is an emotional, physical and mental desire for sexual intercourse.
Individually, the sexual urge varies widely between people. That’s why it’s good to understand how your body works. Some thing that turns you on, might not turn other people. Sexual urge is natural. If you are a religious person reading this article, know this. Anytime you have a high libido, you haven’t committed any sin. How you react to it matters a lot. These are some factors that affects your sexual life:
Age, Stress, Medication, Attitudes towards sex, Fatigue, Hormone levels, Sexual relationships, friends and what you watch.
Read on to learn how to control it
First, before you control anything, you must understand how the thing works. Therefore, you should know what turns you on, when you have a high libido. Is it when you are alone? rainy day? watching pornography?
When you have a high libido, your body goes through excitement and arousal — that’s a normal change to prepare for sex.
For the guys, you’ll experience an erection as blood rushes into the tissues of your penis.
And the ladies that have vulva, the vagina will showcase an increased production of vaginal fluids and swelling of the vulva and clitoris from increased blood flow.
Remember, sexual urge varies individually. It ranges from not having any desire in sex to thinking about it every time. But that’s normal. It happens to every one. It only becomes abnormal if you can’t focus on any other thing again. The level of your libido consist of your biological, psychological and social factor.
How To Control Sexual Urge
There are so many ways to control sexual urge. But the same way your friend controlled it, may not work out for you. Why because, you have different libido. From researches made, these are ways to control sexual:
A. Avoid temptation: There are people or things we can’t resist. You know your weak point, avoid it.
B. Stop watching pornography: It sounds impossible right? It is 100% possible. Do this home work. If you watch porn daily, try to change the habit by watching once or two times a week. From there, watch porn once in 2 weeks. Then once in 3 weeks and so on. That’s how to stop porn. Instead of pornography, watch comedies. At first, it won’t be easy. You may not succeed the first time but keep trying, never give up.
C. Consider the consequences
D. Be careful on how you use social media: Most social media contents are pornography.
E. Pray consistently.
F. Choose your friends wisely.
G. Talk to someone you trust and who can help you.