Relationship: 7 Men Experiences on Relationship with Older Women
EVER WONDERED WHAT DATING AN OLDER WOMAN IS LIKE? 7 MEN SHARE WHAT THEY LEARNT
No matter how ‘open’ and modern we consider ourselves to be but seeing men dating an older woman is something that still raises eyebrows from time to time. Even if they have had a vast and colored dating history, most men tend not to date women who are significantly older than them. Nonetheless, they still wonder what it would be like to date an older woman.
Heck, who among us has not had a crush on one of our teachers, and imagined what would it be like to go out with them ?
We asked some men that had such experience what they learnt from their relationships and experience.
Here’s what they had to say:
1. The Honeymoon Phase Has A Whole New Meaning
“You get a whole new idea about what the honeymoon phase can be,” says Simranjeet Ahluwalia,
This guy’s partner is 7 years older than him. Asking them out or getting together is the easy bit. “You have completely different ideas about the honeymoon phase, about what constitutes as a “fun” activity. Do keep in mind, that there are no rights or wrongs here.”
2. Your “Fights” Or Arguments Are Much More Mature
“You actually learn how to fight or rather argue in a much more mature manner,” says Krishna Baid. Another guy dating a woman 11 years older than him.
“Instead of calling each other names, and getting deviated by irrelevant things, you actually focus on the actual issue; you get to it much quicker. You also realize that when you are dating someone younger, you would have fought or quarreled over petty
things. Things that don’t actually matter. “Basically, you learn how to keep your egos out of a fight.”
3. Things In The Bedroom Are Awesome
“If you’re lucky, sex can truly be liberating in ways that men cannot imagine,” says Shubham Arora. A young man dating a woman 8 years elder to him.
“You learn what intimacy actually is, it is not just about the act. Initially, you may feel it is all about the performance, especially if you’re in your early 20s. Don’t fall prey
to that. Your partner will talk to you, and guide you where you need to go. They will tell you what to do, and how to do it better.”
“Also check all your inhibitions at the door, for you get to experiment in bed. Sure, there are a few no go areas, and you have to respect that. He elaborated that an older person will be more open to experiments with positions and other kinkier stuff between the sheets.”
4. Your Relationship & You Mature Much Quickly
“You learn to empathise in a much better way whenever your relationship hits a rough patch,” says Rachit Thadani. Currently dating a woman 8 years more.
You understand the nuances of the various issues your relationship faces. In a much better way. Consequently, you get a better understanding of the issues in your life, be it your work or any other matter.
5. You Realise You Have Different Priorities
“Given the age gap, you realize your priorities are different,” says Kaushal Sharma, who is dating someone 7 years older than him. “You might be focusing on your career, and starting a family isn’t on your mind.
Your partner will usually be really settled in her career and her profession, and may actually be thinking of starting a family. She is perhaps facing some pressure from her parents to get married soon.
It may not be an issue if you’re on the same page, but sooner or later you will have to deal with this.”
6. Dealing With Parents Is A Whole New Ball Game
“If you’ve decided to get married or go for something more serious, dealing with your parents as well as each other’s parents will be an issue,” says Robin Oberoi, who is 10 years younger than his lover.
“The guy’s parents will certainly object to it, quite vehemently might I add, whereas the girl’s parents will question the guy’s maturity and if he will be able to take good care of their daughter.
The parents on both sides will also worry about age-related compatibility issues. You and your partner have to be determined to face all this and stand by each other. If you have involved your parents, you cannot back out of this because of them.”
7. You Have A Different Attitude Towards Money
“You both treat money very differently,” says Paritosh Banerjee, who is 9 years younger than his partner. “I for example have just started earning well, and like to splurge a little.
Getting new gadgets, going to expensive restaurants, buying gifts – this is how I spend most of my money. I of course save a little. My partner, on the other hand, has had a well-paying job for years. She doesn’t like the fact that I am not saving more and investing, and we have had fights about it. I know she is right, but at the same
time, the temptation to spend one’s own money is strong. I know that eventually, in a few months or years, I will have to start investing as well.”