How To Control Jealousy In A Relationship
WHY DO WE GET JEALOUS IN RELATIONSHIPS?
It is common to feel insecure or jealous when in a romantic relationship. That’s what makes it a relationship.
Most people get jealous when faced with the challenge of accepting someone better than you. But it is not necessarily a good thing.
It is normal for everyone at a point in life to feel jealous and envious of others, but it becomes unhealthy when we start acting towards that feeling. Feelings and emotions are natural but most important thing is how you react to it.
The first step in the bid to control jealousy is finding out why you are actually jealous. This can help you manage it in a positive way.
UNDERSTAND WHAT MAKES YOU JEALOUS
Low self-esteem, vulnerabilities, past experience, lack of confidence, too much expectation from your own side.
Not necessarily from your partner can cause jealousy and if not well managed, can cause harm to the relationship.
Is called relationship not childhood game. It requires maturity and communication.
The most advisable thing to do in this case is to communicate with your partner about your past experiences and current feelings. This will help you both work towards it.
You need to as well accommodate their own shortcomings and not throw shades.
Below are some of the behaviors that can trigger jealousy;
Things That Triggers jealousy
1. Accusing your partner without evidence.
2.Going through your partner’s phone without their consent.
3. Insulting your partner.
4.Being harshly inquisitive on their way about.
Jealousy can be greatly controlled and used positively in the relationship which will in turn strengthen the relationship more.
Let us look at some of the ways we can positively use jealousy to wax our relationships:
1.Open and Honest Communication: We should form the habit of expressing our feelings politely rather than harboring- this is a good approach to a lot of problems.
2.Trust: In order to strengthen your relationship, you need not to accuse or doubt your partner with no concrete reason. Learn to trust yourself first else you won’t be able to trust someone else.
3.Your Actions: Be very careful the way you react to things in your relationship. Do not let anger and jealousy control your actions because there are actions which cannot be retraced and these actions are usually very harmful to relationships. You need to realize that the jealousy you feel signals that something in you warrants your awareness, bring it to your consciousness and use it to cause positive changes in your relationship.